6 Months, Mom Life & What's Next

I am having a hard time wrapping my brain around the fact that my baby girl is 6 months old! I totally understand why so many moms say to me, "cherish these moments while they are so little, it goes by too fast." It sure in the hell does. To think about how SLOW time went by when we were trying so hard to get her, now since she has been here, its like those years flew by.

I have been reflecting a lot lately on how different life is once that baby comes. EVERYTHING is different it seems like. The way I view life, think about the future, her future, our every day lifestyle. But most importantly, and I think in today's society people forget a lot about, is the present. Living in the moment! Really taking the time to enjoy every day, every second you have with your little one and your family! There are so many firsts, so many experiences they are going to have in the first years of their life and we as parents really need to BE THERE! Life pulls you in so many directions these days, but I know one thing is for sure, my child will ALWAYS come first. I learned very quickly that was more of a natural instinct after I gave birth. Of course we want to protect them, but also let them be kids! I am so looking forward to these first years of her life. Holidays, birthdays, vacations and anything else she wants to do!

While our little girl is doing fantastic and I could go on and on about how wonderful she is, the thing us moms hate to talk about is how we are doing. I am the worst at it, too. I do not think moms give themselves enough credit. We just go through the motions every day and don’t think think about ourselves. For me personally, I can think of maybe two times in the past six months I’ve actually taken time to do something for myself. And I am fine with that! That’s life, that’s being a mom! Our babies come first and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Being a mom in society today, is a cruel harsh world. You are critizied for EVERYTHING! Literally, everything! Everyone is different and everyone has their own opinions. So keep them to yourself! Let moms raise their kids how they chose. If you don’t like something someone else is doing, keep it to yourself. Women are so quick to gang up on each other anymore. I don’t get it! We should be empowering each other. Not dragging each other through the mud. Share your #MomFails and embrace it! No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. That’s part of raising kids...they are teaching you things just as much as you are teaching them! No one has all the answers. All you can do is be you and be the Mom you want to be, the Mom you want your daughter or son to grow and say they are proud to call you MOM!

Everyone should text their best friend one a week and tell them what their #MomFail was that week! Laugh about it, joke about it, learn from it and move on to the next week. Take it day by day and remember to do things for yourself every now and then!

In the past 6 months I have felt at times that I may never get back to myself. I haven’t taken the time to REALLY take care of myself. The yoga classes I loved are non existent. Hobbies..what hobbies? Me time...what’s that? Dates with my hubby...one. Blogging...you can see how often I have been able to do that. But that stuff really didn’t even cross my mind much. I was just so worried about being a good mom and not screwing that up! I wanted so badly to be a mom, a great mom, that I forgot about anything else.

I am slowly learning, being a great mom does not mean you have to forget about yourself. You can still treat yourself every now and then. Do things that make you feel good about yourself again! Especially those mommas with little girls, you want your little girl to grow up seeing their mommy’s happy and having that self confidence!

Also knowing in the back of my mind that I have all of these bills and loans to pays off, on top of everyday baby stuff, I didn’t need to spend money to my leisure. I stress so much about money, it’s unhealthy, I know. So I've been trying to find another source of some kind of income. I don’t want to be stressed about loans and reminded of our fertility struggles until Rowan is 10! And what if we have to do Invitro all over again? How the heck are we going to afford that? Too many things running through my head.

Thanks to some friends of mine, I’ve recently discovered something that is starting to bring back some of my confidence while also being a potential help to us paying off some loans. It’s a win, win right?

One thing that I have always struggled with and that has taken a toll of my confidence for years, even more so after pregnancy, is my skin. I’ve tried many skin care products, medications, make ups since high school and have never found anything that I truly love or that really agrees with my skin. After pregnancy, I pretty much gave up. For one, I just didn’t want to take the time to and two, I was just to the point where I didn’t care what I looked like.

I think a lot of us women go through that stage, whether you’ve had a baby or not. You let go of your appearance. Too much of life gets in the way. It’s okay to admit. You can pull yourself back out of that slump, I promise! Or maybe you have just never been into skin care or make up, which is partially me as well. Well these products changed my entire perception!

Since my friends introduced me to LimeLight by Alcone (professional grade, all natural skin care) I’ve started to care about my skin and appearance again. I actually look forward to cleansing my face and putting on make up now. I can honestly say, my skin has NEVER been as healthy as it is now! These ALL NATURAL products has given me life again...building up confidence I lost a long time ago! I swear by this stuff, I really do. You don’t realize how much ALL NATURAL products can make a difference on your skin until you get rid of all the chemically induced products we’ve been using for years. After making this change to these all natural products, I will never go back! Also, when you have a little one and they are against your skin a lot, the all natural products on my skin will not cause any breakouts or reactions if it rubs against my baby girl.

So I am taking the leap down a new path and hoping for the best. Working with products I truly love and believe in, while also having the potential to help pay off some loans, is a good start to doing something for me, AND my family!

Everyone remember to do something for yourself! Whether you're a mom or not...do something that gives you that confidence and happiness! And if you are interested in starting where I did with Limelight, or trying out these life changing products,

my link is below! You will not be disappointed, I guarantee it!

https://www.limelightbyalcone.com/lissajones

Thank you to everyone for the love and support you have shown me, and my family, throughout my fertility journey. Seeing how many people took part in our story and reached out to me has meant more to me than anyone will ever know. I hope to have you all continue with me through the next journey!

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