The Questions

When are you guys going to have a baby?

What are you waiting on?

How long you been married? Oh yeah, yawl need to start having kids!

How much longer are you going to wait?

What are you waiting on?

Don't you know you're wasting time?

How many kids you plan on having?

Don't you want your kids to be the same age as your friends kids?

This was just after one year of marriage. And it only got worse. At the time, it did not bother me so much, because we only had a year invested in "trying" so far. And to our knowledge, it was not going to be too much longer.

I understand in today's society most people do start having kids after they get married. But not THE DAY after! Some couples like to spend the first year or two being married, some people wait 5 years or just do not want kids. Heck, these days, people are having kids before they get married. Everyone is different and they have the option to be. In the world we live in today, these questions can sometimes be discouraging and/or just annoying after awhile. You just never know what others are going through. If the couple chooses to talk about it or openly discuss it, then that is up to them. But let them decide that!

I promise you the couples that have not had a baby yet are very much aware that all of their friends are having them. Every time they attend a couples shower, baby shower, gender reveal party they are constantly reminded of the position they are in. Of course they are happy for their friends/family that are blessed with their little miracles, there is just a different feeling that comes with it to those that are struggling. And that is something that can never really be explained until you have lived through it and dealt with it on your own.

All I am saying is just be conscience of others. Just because a couple is married, doesn't mean they need to be quizzed about when they are going to reproduce. Dealing with these struggles will just give you a whole new perspective on things. That is all....